Foreplay…What Matters!

In the late 1940s, Dr. Alfred Kinsey forever abolished the myth that women are less sexually oriented than their male counterparts. The truth is, most healthy women have healthy sexual appetites – women do, indeed, enjoy sex. However, though libidinal intensity may be similar between the genders, there are some basic physiological and psychological differences between the sexes that cause women to take a slightly different approach to sex.

Is Foreplay Really Important?

For many women, foreplay is not a supplement to sex, but is actually an integral part of love making. Pre-coital play serves a number of practical purposes for women: it helps make the body receptive to sexual intercourse, it aids in lowering any emotional or intellectual blocks, it builds intimacy with her partner–a crucial act which heightens her ability to respond to the subtle stimuli which indicate what her partner likes and doesn't like (and vise versa)–and it puts her in a state wherein she can get the fullest enjoyment and satisfaction from the encounter. Foreplay not only allows a woman to get more out of sexual contact, it makes it more likely that she will achieve orgasm.

Hygiene 101 – The Smell of Desire

Most men are completely oblivious to the crucial fact that women are extremely smell-oriented. So, fellows, if you want any shot at sending your lady over the edge, before any intimate encounter with her, you should have an intimate encounter with nicely scented soap and some warm water. Better yet, get her in on the action. A cozy shower for two allows you to intermingle the powerful sense of smell with that of touch. Showering together is extremely intimate and can really set the mood.
Outside of the bathroom, scent can still play an important role in sexual preplay. Scented candles to set the mood and scented massage oils for an intimate rub-down can stimulate the olfactory glands while you stimulate her body. Because smell is so closely connected to memory, if you do your job right, you can ensure that your passionate night comes to mind every time she encounters those scents in the future.

Mouth Magic

No, we don't mean doing that (though that can certainly be an important part of foreplay). Your mouth is probably one of your most powerful, and versatile, erotic tools, men. Your lips can make her shiver, quiver, and moan without ever coming into contact with her body. The universal language of love is one of the most effective stimulants of the female libido. Hundreds of hack romance novel writers understand this basic fact, but far too few men do. Women are as verbally oriented as men are visually oriented. So, fellows, talk to your ladies. You may be surprised at the result.

A touch from the lips or a warm breath applied to the right places can also get your woman writhing in anticipation. Besides the obvious areas for applying stimulation, the earlobes, the area of the neck just behind the ear, the sensitive flesh between the breast and the armpit, the insides of the elbows and behind the knees, and the belly are all very receptive to warm kisses. Of course, all women are different, so pay attention to how your lady responds and focus on the areas that generate the greatest response. Combine touches from the lips with the power of your words – as you explore her body with your lips, praise the virtues of each area, tell her how much you enjoy her body and why. Chances are, you'll find that you are responding as much as she is.

Remember, like anything else in life, you get back what you put in. You can't expect mind shattering sex if you just lay back and let your partner do all the work. Sex is a participation sport and the more you participate the better you get at it. Above all, keep in tune with what your partner wants and likes. You'll find that the more she enjoys sex, the more you do to.