Foreplay and Men…How Does That Work?

Guys often get something of a bum rap when it comes to the topic of foreplay. The mythical male stereotype lives in a constant state of sexual receptiveness, ready to go at the proverbial “drop of a hat” (or pants, as the case may be). Granted, during turbulent, hormone-driven years of puberty and shortly thereafter, young men often have a hair-trigger libido. However, the average mature man often needs more than just a come-hither stare or passing touch to get his motor revving. In other words, foreplay isn't just for women.

Why Bother?

When a man is stimulated during preplay, it does more than just heighten his receptiveness to sexual intercourse. Foreplay builds intimacy and increases empathy between partners. When you tantalize and stimulate your guy, you are focusing his attention entirely on you and on the mutual exchange of pleasure. You aren't just making him feel good, you are encouraging him to make you feel good. The result is increased sexual pleasure and heightened intensity for both partners.
The more you put into preplay, the more it pays off. A little bit of extra effort in the pre-coital warm ups can make the difference between fireworks and fizzles. So what are the best ways to get a guy hot, bothered and ready to action?

Leave the Lights On

Unlike women, men are primarily visually oriented. Don't believe it? Just think about the thousands of tons of men's magazines published every year. Men's eyes have a direct line to their gonads and nothing gets a guy's attention like a little peek of flesh. Simply letting your fellow look at your body is a great way to get him focused solely on you. No guy can think about work, bills, or the big game when confronted by an eyeful of skin.

When you combine this physiological fact with the psychological one-two punch of the slow strip, you can reduce your man to a quivering mass of ready-and-willing in scant minutes. It is a known fact that a skimpy outfit can be more alluring than total nudity. That mystery of what's underneath allows the imagination to kick in and run wild. Do a slow strip for your sweetie (or better yet, ask him to help you peel down), and you'll have him eating out… of your hands. And don't forget to leave the lights on.

Let's Get Physical

Slightly less potent than visual cues, for men, is the sensation of touch. Furthermore, inside every man remains a touch of the old pioneer spirit. Letting your beau explore your body with his hands and lips is a surefire way of helping him get his tent pitched and it is bound to get your campfire lit as well.

Loosen Up

Inhibition is probably the single biggest mood-killer for guys. Your man may not always be the most emotionally sensitive person on the planet, but if you aren't into the encounter, he'll know. When a guy senses reluctance or hesitation, it can spark his own uncertainties. Once a guys gets knocked off his stride and starts to lose his confidence, his performance in bed (and out) will follow.

The single best way to bring your lover to the peak of sensual receptivity is to be receptive yourself. The more you enjoy sex, the more your partner will. Plus, when he sees how much you are enjoying yourself, he will be more eager to please. Deep down, every guy wants to be the world's best lover. Though that may not be the case (by quite a lot), a little bit of encouragement can go a long way. He'll respond to it and you will both feel the benefits.

So peel off your inhibitions with your clothes and give yourself permission to enjoy sex. You just might surprise yourself… and him.